As valentines day weekend ended I sat and thought to myself about the holiday. In our house its a big day because not only is it a "romantic" holiday its also my father's birthday. However this year is a little off for me. With in the past week we have heard about one the music industries sweetest couples suffering the ultimate break up which ended with a pop Princess, Rihanna, battered and bruised by boy toy Chris Brown. One of our fellow bloggers wrote about love and trying to come up with a definition for the word and an origin my question is where is the love this year. It seems as though males are losing their minds. Not only did I hear about a doemstic dispute between these two but I also heard from two different female friends about how their ex boyfriends abused them. This question is what keeps going through my mind how can a man ever lay his hands on a woman. That is something you just do not do. It really irks me when I hear about a man hitting a woman because I just do not feel there is any place in society for it. I just wonder if we can find that love that valentines day is supposed to represent or has the world gone mad. On one of my reality shows that I watch(like none of you watch some sort of reality tv thats all thats basically on) a man and woman get into a confrontation and for a minute I was worried that he was actually going to hit her. I just figured I used this weeks blog to look at this on going situation and wonder what makes it okay? I remember last summer reading a tabloid in which sweet Jessica Simpson admits that she was physically abused in a past relationship. Jessica? How could anyone ever want to lay a finger on her. I do not know whetre these egotistic men get off raising their hands on women but thats what I spent some time thinking about this weekend. Even amidst all the glits and glamour of All Star weekend I coud not get the thought out of my head. I think we as men need to respect our women and not look at them as objects to beat when we can not contorl our temper. I am so worked up that I do not even know how to end this blog so I am just going to be corny and say Leonce out!
You posted it and invited my first rant of the semester: as a personally abused (and maybe abusive) young woman of the twenty-first century, I would just like to say that anyone who doesn't understand how you could want to lay a hand on someone may not really know what love is. NOT to say that you should be hitting or biting or otherwise battering the ones you love...but if anyone has a brother or sister or a good friend they had a falling out with, you know that it can be easy to let passion give rise to physical expression. It's just a shame that someone as f-ing pampered and spoiled as "boy toy" Chris Brown feels the need to beat up on someone as teeny weeny as Rihanna. What a loser.
ReplyDeleteHaving said as much, I am probably the ONLY person who doesn't like Rihanna. Yeah, she's sexy, but she looks like she'd be a real bitch in person. Sort of like my profile picture makes me look...all smirky and shit. Beyonce can look at me all squinty all she wants, but Rihanna isn't attractive enough to pull it off.
AND...yeah, poor Jessica Simpson. That's tough. But no one has any sympathy for her after her marriage fell apart and she overate a little bit. We're such hypocrites. If Rihanna had beat herself up--if she were self-abusive, or anorexic--we wouldn't have this same sympathy for her. And being with someone who would treat you like that is really half the problem.
[sigh] So...now that I've gone on my rant...thanks for sharing.
Mariah out!
(I should probably clarify: I wrote this post after hearing on the radio that Chris and Rihanna were still communicating via text message and have not broken things off yet, despite the bad media, and that people expect this to ruin both of their careers if they choose to stay together. I think that these people are entertainers, and should not necessarily be judged by their personal relationships...not that I think that it's cool AT ALL to go around smacking your lady or dude around. I was once in an abusive relationship...they run their course. She'll either work it out...or he will...or they both will. And everyone shaking their heads is just making it harder to make real decisions about their life together.
ReplyDelete...that's what I should have added originally.)